Well, here's some things we do i the college league...
Frist, you ahve to separate "foul" type penalties from "misconduct" type penalties. Fouls are players doing something that isn't allowed, but acting within the mechanics of the game. You're not supposed to interfere with passes, but you've got two guys running along both trying to get to the football, so sometimes pass interference happens - and the offender gets the penalty. The penalty is there to establish a balance between agressive play and TOO agressive play - the players are going to try hard ot receive/block passes, but also to not pick up the pass interference call. Same thing with offsides - no one wants to be offsides because it just costs you 5 yards, but sometimes it happens.
Misconduct is more things outside of the way the game is supposed to work. Wheras with pass interference you've just gone over the edge o fpass blocking, which is your job, things like fighting, or ntentionally deflating the football, or in our case, wiping, are conscious acts outside the context of the game.
So the goal is to have penalties for fouls that make players careful not to commit them but understand that it's a game and they're going to happen sometimes anyway, and penalties for misconduct that are so harsh people nearly never do that at all. Basically, it's quite possible that you could be honestly playing paintball and pick up a playing on penalty, but you're neer going to accidentally take your hand and wipe that hit off the front of your hopper.
In our new set of rules, we split things into minor, major and gross violations. Minors are things like swearing, or not having your barrel plug in, etc. Majors are things like playing on, talking when you're dead, calling a paintcheck for an obvious hit, etc. Grosses are wiping, throwing equipment, hostile confrontations, etc. Minors and Majors are points - so you definitely want to avoid them, grosses accumulate - the fist one is 50 points, the second one (per team) is 100 points and if committed by the same player a player ejection (team plays short) and the third one (per team) and the whole team is gone. Gross violations don't happen by accident, so if you're going to bring players who are going to commit THREE of them in the same tourament, we don't need your team there at all. Being able to behave like an adult and actually play paintball (i.e. not run around wiping) are a prerequisite to being able to play at all.
Things like throwing equipment will land you a yearlong suspension, and right now, fighting is lifetime (I wouldn't advocate that for a regular league, but for a college league where a lifetime is 4 years, keeping that player around isn't worth it to us.)
Suffice it to say, we don't have a whole lot of problems with gross penalties - we've called one per year for the past 2 years.
Fouls we call a lot. As I explain in captain's meetings, if you have an obvious hit, and you keep playing, (advance, shoot, etc) that's a penalty. It doesn't matter if you can't see it, it doesn't matter if you're in the middle of a bunker run - when you feel that hit, you have a choice: Stop and call yourself out, stop and get a paintcheck (if you're behind cover), or hope it bounced and keep playing - but if you're wrong, you'll cost your team 25 points. (On the other hand, if you bunker the guy and he spins on you, he gets the penalty.)
The end result is that in most cases, you'll be damned sure to get the paint check, but if it's the last game of the day and you need the flag hang to advance/win and you're the last guy on your team bunkering their last guy, you're not going to stop until a ref calls you out even if you do feel a hit and take the 25 point penalty if it broke - and there's nothing wrong with that. It's not cheating, it's risking the 25 point penalty because you need the 50 from the hang.
And as others have already point out, this all obviously works much better when you have practiced refs who know what they're doing. Keep in mind that in football/baseball/basketball, refs/umpires sometimes make over $100,000 a year. Paintball pays our refs about the same as we pay refs for the 10-12 year old age group in the local Jaycee's league. You do get what you pay for. Not much we can do about it though - when the player is footing the bill, you don' exactly have $100k/year lying around to pay refs.
- Chris