What is 'Love' anyway?

[Tony Harrison]

Just as I thought.
Jonathan A - you're kidding yourself! You're wrapped up in some Arabian Nights fantasy adventure plot. Luckily, you have friends online that are willing to point this out for you.




So, more inclined?


or less inclined?

I see. Sounds like someone has had a bad experience.

 

[Missy-Q]

I see. Sounds like someone has had a bad experience.

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Everyone over 30 has had at least one bad experience. I have had far more than just one bad experience, and plenty of good ones too. That, to be honest, is the point.

 

[vmaxnick]

When you have kids, you will know what love is for your kids, and what love is for you mrs....
One you love hearing when you walk through the door, and the pitter patter of their tiny feet, and the other you dont want to hear at all.


In all seriousness, you will know what it is when you do have kids, its very different to that of your partner, and its hard to describe, you would do ANYTHING for the kids, and i mean anything. Just wait until then.

Amen to that!

When my Son was born, the feeling dawned on me that I would give my life for his in a heartbeat. Then at 3 weeks old, he was diagnosed with a heart defect and nearly died.
I would have swapped places with him without a second thought
Thankfully, as they become more able to fend for themselves, this overwhelming feeling subsides into what can only be described as love!
Love for a partner is more of a mixture of; strong friendship, companionship, compatibility, need, lust and sometimes, possessiveness!

Just my 2p's worth

 

[Tony Harrison]

I see. Sounds like someone has had a bad experience.

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Everyone over 30 has had at least one bad experience. I have had far more than just one bad experience, and plenty of good ones too. That, to be honest, is the point.

Stress less, my friend.

There is no need to get so worked up over a thread that uses a title of a Howard Jones song as its subject.

 

[pablo666]

Jay, it sound like you're saying that you DON'T 'just know' when it's 'the ONE'

Are you saying that Jonathan A's 'love' is unreal, in that it's a physical impossibility, and that what he is feeling is plain old 'lust'? ....because that's what it sounds like you're saying...

You commended young Pablo earlier (he is extremely grateful by the way) on his 'love philosophy'. Now that you know that he got his experience 2nd hand, sometimes unobserved, but mainly from his oldest friend (also 17yrs old, but qualifies as an expert of sorts because he has a kid), does this additional information make you feel more or less inclined to congratulate him further on his perception of 'love'?

I have given my opinion on the question and just stated my views on love. If you feel the need to bash someone can i recommend somewhere else. Strangely i can pick up on sarcasm at my "youthful" age of 17, i also have stated these are my views and mine alone as well as the fact i believe i said i realise i don't know it all. You want to bash me feel free through pm's but taking the piss just for a laugh?
I'm not laughing to be honest.
Rant done.

CK

 

[pablo666]

Damn, no pressure....

The thing about gut wrenching love is that it wrenches guts. Personally, I prefer my gut unwrenched. My meals however, I prefer gut busting.

One thing some people seem to forget is that there is a difference between being in love and actually loving somebody. Despite all the crap Disney throws at us, being in love is basically a hormonal thing. Just like any other slightly evolved animal, it's just nature telling us that we approve of the other's genetic make up and would like to copulate. Basically, lust plays a huge part.
True love (this sounds so soppy) takes time to develop, despite what some people may tell you, it is never there from the get go, as it takes time for people to integrate into each other's lives enough to develop that state of mind. That kind of love is basically a mix between the sort of love you feel for a close family member and a physical attraction. It takes time for somebody new to be as close and familiar to you as your family is, so that part has to develop.

Falling in love can happen quickly though, even in an instant.

Right, I'm off to do some manly stuff now! Let's see if I can find a puppy to kick, or a bag of kittens to drown.

Think this just about hits the nail on the head or is the closest you are going to get to an answer James. Hormones and lust as well as the conception that you "need" a partner and there is the "one" out there.
Well im all done on the subject. Hope i helped in one way or another.

CK

 

[The Evans 11]

Think this just about hits the nail on the head or is the closest you are going to get to an answer James. Hormones and lust as well as the conception that you "need" a partner and there is the "one" out there.
Well im all done on the subject. Hope i helped in one way or another.

CK

CK you should know enough about 'Love' you recieve plenty of it from myself and Josh (in a totally heterosexual way)

 

[chrizwheatley]

A guy at the gym recently told me that his girl definately loves him because she goes ATM without any prompting.

Good to have a 'litmus test' I guess, or failing that a prenup.

I agree with this gent. Putout or i put you out

 

[Robbo]

There are certain things we can be pretty sure about whilst discussing, and there are .....other things....and these other things, we can be less sure of.

Discussing subjects such as this aren't all that useful if looking for any definitive lock-down on what's going on but I suppose they give us an idea of how people think.

The early Greek philosophers realised the problems when trying to define such elusive concepts as beauty and love and hate etc ..... and basically you can't .... it's an impossible task.

The problem with trying to describe love is, firstly, it's an emotion for God's sake and therefore entirely subjective.

There is as much point in asking 'what is love' as there is in asking, 'what is up'.

Love, being an emotion, gets its ass categorized alongside hate, jealousy and so on.
Contemporary research and writings are for the most part, a bunch of horse-sh!te and unless you got a brain scanner being used to accompany any research, it really is all academic bullsh!te.

The most accurate thing we can possibly say about any emotion, not just love, is, it is a state of mind and as such can be viewed as a combination of electrical and chemical changes to the brain.

Mind you, we can say that about any experience affecting the brain and therefore human experience, but the problem with emotion seems to be, that it's hard to tie down to any specific area of the brain and seems more likely to be a combination of brain events giving rise to the experience of love.

Whenever we taste anything, it is an emergent property of experiencing a combination of about 5 base flavours and the emotion of love could well be a combination of base experiences; and this also applies to all other emotions.

And so, love is ....whatever you feel it is ... all you can do is describe how you feel and that's as accurate as it's gonna get guys; it could well be said that 'an explanation of love is as diverse as people's dna' because everybody is different and therefore so will all their experiences .... not really a scientific answer I know but then again, psychology [human behaviour] never really was a science anyway.

 

[Matski]

I agree with this gent. Putout or i put you out

I think the ATM Test is pretty solid...

Testing aside, anyone who thinks they can know "The One" immediately is mistaken. To say that there is "The One" suggests that relationships are determined by 'destiny' in place of the actions/decisions you make - which is about as logical as a chocolate teapot. If relationships are not determined by destiny, which is the case, you can have a great time with (and end up loving) any number of people.