Thanks. I was kinda looking for a ' I think number 2 is unfair and this is why' kind of answer, but its cool, all cool, and you're right, they do know about the birds and the bee's real early.
Like before, I think it bepends on the kids and the mentors/role models they have.
I have managed junior teams for new/young players and most are great, I acknowledge that a lot of them don't have the cash and rely on Mummy & Daddy for the cash (as, in these 'modern times, it is not easy for them to find gainful employment), until they get to the age where the parents decide they should fund them selves.
This is the major reason I don't enforce any kit rules or seek a 'sponsorship' deal for kit, I would rather they get the best use from what they have than shell out more on new gear, what they save they can use for paint, entry fees, training etc., what I consider the important things.
If they do get any help and support from a retailer with discounts etc. I make sure they show their gratitude and represent wherever and whenever possible.
Occasionally you get a kid with a bad attitude, they need to be taken aside and given a talking to, given a lesson in the cold facts of life (with consultation of their parents/guardian) and maybe put on a warning. If they decide to quit then it probably wasn't for them, but usually they work harder to fit in the team.
IMHO there is no such thing as bad kids, just bad influences, in life many see their role models getting ahead for little effort (the fame culture), sometimes they need to be shown that the road to glory isn't paved in gold.