Main advice though is to just go out and enjoy it.
With you and a friend you have the option of formally or informally attaching to a group/team either for the day or whenever you respawn. You can pick a team randomly from who is next to you in the safezone, following a crowd as you spawn, or get your husband to attach you to a team.
Depending on how you like to play you just go out and have a shootout, can offer yourselves to him as available to go into whatever he needs in relation to the scenario - e.g. taking & holding objectives, scavenging for props, being a reaction force to run around and attack or defend areas.
It may seem that you don't want to bug him all of the time, but turning up every now and then and saying 'what do you want us to do' can be helpful for commanders.