Nick, you never know when to stop do you?
I shouldn't really be surprised because it is the nature of your pathology that exhibits this behaviour trait along with all the other traits such as Stongle mentioned.
You put a smiley face at the end of that little dig above at me but I know you well enough now to realise you meant what you just said.
People reading your post will automatically assume you are telling the truth...well that's ok, as long as it is the truth..hence this post.
And so, what I am gonna do is this, you have accused me of something (above) and I am gonna challenge you to substantiate it and you can do this easily enough by trawling thru the posts I have made that have involved yourself.
If you use the 'Advanced Search' facility on this site, you should be able to locate an example of what you quoted.
Now, this is a great opportunity for you Nick because you can now shoot me down in flames in front of everybody and make me look a fool IF you come up with an instance where I have bullied you and then come back with your point of view a year later ... And when I just used the word 'bullied', it will mean you have to come up with a series of posts where I didn't use rational arguments and indulged myself by introducing factors like my supposed position in paintball to win whatever debate we were involved in.
Now, what's at stake in this, I tell ya....if you find one instance that satisfies what you claimed above, then I will never come on these boards again and I will duly apologise for doubting you.
I am a man of my word, and I will keep to it ...but remember here, you have to substantiate your accusations to the letter otherwise you gotta apologise coz I am getting sick and f' kin tired of people accusing me of things I just haven't done or said.
The floor is yours Nick..start dancin'
First of all - why on earth would I want you to leave the forum?
- I enjoy our debates - until you start with the superior attitude and namecalling - as oft happens.
You are an intelligent person who usually have extremely interesting points to make and is very well informed.
I didn't put a smiley face on it to imply I was being ironic - but rather to signify that it wasn't meant as an insult - and as a signal that it was friendly... hmmm "advice"..... for lack of a better word.... I meant every word of it!
My perception of nearly every debate I have had in here with you, is that you end up calling me derogatory things and imply my intellect is dubious (or words to that effect).... and many times it seems to me, to be a show for the crowd, when I hold it up against how we communicate face to face or on the phone.
As for going over years of posts - I may do that - but not right now, I have a tournament to go to tomorrow.... but at some point I will probably find the time for it.
As for your "rules" on what is bullying and what is not- that is hardly your call to make (since you are not the one on the receiving end of it
)... being a bully and using rational arguments are not mutually exclusive IMHO - actually, you are a master at combining the two rather elegantly
Your MO is usually that a debate starts out friendly - and then when someone (in this case me) does not accept your rationale as gods own truth, then you start with the derogatory remarks and slights....
It always baffles me - because if someone did the same to you, they would be banned from this site in a heartbeat - it's a double standard that I dislike intensely.... and a big reason why I use the word "bully"
Whenever you are in a debate with me - and you disagree, you (being the word smith that you are), quite obviously choose your words with care.... and when you CHOOSE to say "you are a moron and have no idea what you are talking about" (or something similar) - instead of "I disagree because bla bla bla".... you know very very very very well what effect it will cause.
To me it is a sign of disrespect - as well as a cheap show for "the masses" who are not privy to how we comunicate privately.... and quite frankly, it pisses me off that you CHOOSE to do it, when it is well within your reach to take the high road.
I could care less when some person I do not know does it - but it is a very different matter when it is someone I have known for so many years.
Perhaps this is a question of tempers flaring - I don't know - but the fact of the matter is, that nearly every debate we are in, ends up being "unpleasant".
I have absolutely no problem admitting to being a pigheaded and arrogant prick at times - I am passionate about our sport, and have very strong beliefts about what is best for it..... you have very much the same traits.... difference just is, I do not call you an idiot for it or tell you (and the world) I am superior - and I try to keep the debates at an intellectual level, where I do not stoop to insults (until faced with insults).
Now this whole tirade is (again) not meant as an insult - but rather as an explanation of how I have experienced many of our debates in here - and perhaps (I hope) as an eyeopener?
It is my sincere hope you take what I have written to heart.
Nick
