Always take a big binliner with me to events, so change and dump all the scuzzy stuff in that before heading home. If it's really muddy I'll hose it down in the back garden first (usually hose down pack/tacvest anyway), then bung top/bottoms/gloves/bottle cover/fluffy/barrel sock etc in the washing machine on a quick wash in those net bags you get, stops any velcro from destroying your playing top. Take lens out of goggles then rinse the mask and lens under the tap and hang up to dry - dab dry lens with tissue to avoid drying marks. Marker stripped, cleaned, lubed and put back together. Loader stripped and shell & pots washed in the sink then left to dry.
For boots - bowl of warm water and scrubbing brush followed by a hose down and then leave them to dry inside but not too near a rad to avoid leather cracking. Once they're dry a good reproofing with NikWax.
At the risk of being even more metro......for bad staining I've found a liberal application of Vanish stick then rubbing the fabric together will get rid of even the worst paint stains when followed by a wash.