were a new team just starting out and trying to talk the parental units into lettings us travel to the next game if any one can give suggestions it would be a great help
new team looking for a bit of help
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hi guys you don't say how young you are or how far away?
As a parent, baller, site owner, tourney organiser and sponsor to several young teams I find talking always helps.
Make sure you have all the facts to hand and lots of contact numbers.
Are you expecting any of the parents to drive you to the venue?
If so see if you can get a few of them on side and then talk them in to sharing it ie one drops you off another picks you up that way it cuts their day up less and gets them on side easier.
Do they know how seriously your taking it? With young players it's often a fad and before you know it they give up this happened to a lad last year real talent could have been amazing but he was a long way away and gave up. I spent lots of time explaining to all the parents what we were trying to do with the team, were the venues were ect. I also made sure they all knew everything was ligitamte and that the enfasise was on school work first and commitment to the team second. Have you shown them vidio or magazines or any players you respect? Have they played yet one of our juniors organised a fun family day as a lot of the parents knew each other ok they all said they would never get as keen but they could all see why it became important to him.
If your planning to go it alone either trains busses or lifts make sure they have contact numbers for all of you and for were your going and any one who is driving you. Ideally not a fellow youngster Parents worry about drivers with little experience, a tourney is a long day and after playing a long drive is hard work I spent all last year playing 2003 with average of 4 hours drive it kills!
Promise to call them at certain times and stick to it this way they can see your being responcible and will worry less hey next time they might not want half the calls. Obviously the best thing is to get them intrested enough to come play, watch, pot bitch for you.
I hope some of the other younger players give you some tips too ie chris of sad, hes been there, chick of 6E chicks, How or Philp come on guys give them a breack share you obviously working tips.
Good Luck guys and don't give up I know what it's like to be stuck miles from any were and reliant on your parents but you can leave home and learn to drive.
As a parent, baller, site owner, tourney organiser and sponsor to several young teams I find talking always helps.
Make sure you have all the facts to hand and lots of contact numbers.
Are you expecting any of the parents to drive you to the venue?
If so see if you can get a few of them on side and then talk them in to sharing it ie one drops you off another picks you up that way it cuts their day up less and gets them on side easier.
Do they know how seriously your taking it? With young players it's often a fad and before you know it they give up this happened to a lad last year real talent could have been amazing but he was a long way away and gave up. I spent lots of time explaining to all the parents what we were trying to do with the team, were the venues were ect. I also made sure they all knew everything was ligitamte and that the enfasise was on school work first and commitment to the team second. Have you shown them vidio or magazines or any players you respect? Have they played yet one of our juniors organised a fun family day as a lot of the parents knew each other ok they all said they would never get as keen but they could all see why it became important to him.
If your planning to go it alone either trains busses or lifts make sure they have contact numbers for all of you and for were your going and any one who is driving you. Ideally not a fellow youngster Parents worry about drivers with little experience, a tourney is a long day and after playing a long drive is hard work I spent all last year playing 2003 with average of 4 hours drive it kills!
Promise to call them at certain times and stick to it this way they can see your being responcible and will worry less hey next time they might not want half the calls. Obviously the best thing is to get them intrested enough to come play, watch, pot bitch for you.
I hope some of the other younger players give you some tips too ie chris of sad, hes been there, chick of 6E chicks, How or Philp come on guys give them a breack share you obviously working tips.
Good Luck guys and don't give up I know what it's like to be stuck miles from any were and reliant on your parents but you can leave home and learn to drive.
Definately have to agree with Spaklie here, if you are going to be making your own way there show your parents the route that you are intending to take and ok it with them and if your trying to get a lift of them, then just be extra polite and offer to help them with other stuff so as to sweeten them up.
thanks you two, for the input and i wish it was that easy where we live, Wyoming there arent a lot of places close to us that hodl tournies, and the rides are not the problem its all just trying to get them to basicaly believe that we can get there, which is stupid cus i drive for a liveing and my rents as well as my teams rents know that- shrugs- oh well. but thanks ill try anthing to get them to believe that we can do it
thanks again
thanks again
Being an old(er) player, my teams have often had young players on the squad. A couple of things I've found helpful in convincing parents to let the younger players travel for tournaments and such...
- Get to know the parents. Talk to them (at least a "Hi, how are you?" when you pick up little Johnny), let them know you're not a deranged survivalist freak (I'm assuming you're not). Parents are much more likely to trust their precious offspring to someone they know. Don't forget to mention things like how safe the sport is, how popular it's becoming, etc.
- Invite the parents to come out to practice or a local tournament, so they can see what you're doing and they understand it's a sport. Even if they don't show up, this will help them see PB as a legit activity. If the parents take you up on your offer, try to be on your best behaviour and watch the cursing, arguing, etc. Show them that this is a positive growth experience for the kids.
- Talk about the positive aspects of the sport - teamwork, building communication skills, developing self-reliance, etc. If little Johnny is doing something to earn money to pay for his expensive new habit, that's even better, as it shows he's developing the maturity to handle money and commitment.
- Show a commitment to the sport. If little Johnny goes to practice every week, it shows this isn't an excuse to go party or a passing fad. See the point about money too.
Don't expect parents to just hand over their kids on your word. You need to show them that you're serious about the sport and you can be trusted to look after their child. Finally, don't forget that if they do trust you with their kid, you have a certain responsibility to watch over them. Make sure you're willing to accept that responsibility.
- Get to know the parents. Talk to them (at least a "Hi, how are you?" when you pick up little Johnny), let them know you're not a deranged survivalist freak (I'm assuming you're not). Parents are much more likely to trust their precious offspring to someone they know. Don't forget to mention things like how safe the sport is, how popular it's becoming, etc.
- Invite the parents to come out to practice or a local tournament, so they can see what you're doing and they understand it's a sport. Even if they don't show up, this will help them see PB as a legit activity. If the parents take you up on your offer, try to be on your best behaviour and watch the cursing, arguing, etc. Show them that this is a positive growth experience for the kids.
- Talk about the positive aspects of the sport - teamwork, building communication skills, developing self-reliance, etc. If little Johnny is doing something to earn money to pay for his expensive new habit, that's even better, as it shows he's developing the maturity to handle money and commitment.
- Show a commitment to the sport. If little Johnny goes to practice every week, it shows this isn't an excuse to go party or a passing fad. See the point about money too.
Don't expect parents to just hand over their kids on your word. You need to show them that you're serious about the sport and you can be trusted to look after their child. Finally, don't forget that if they do trust you with their kid, you have a certain responsibility to watch over them. Make sure you're willing to accept that responsibility.
as a youngster myself if you can get a lift to one tourney from a person try and get a lift with the same person or at least travel with the same person to every tourney. Also if there are any tourneys near you get that person to stop at your house so your parents meet em tell your parents background info on them e.g. job.info of peoples houses your staying at....number plates of their car and make of it's car.... stuff like that.
... mobile phone numbers for you and for other players on the team.... details of where you are staying and the phone number and address of there and also get your parents along.
then most important put all the info it on one sheet of paper and put it somewhere where everyone knows about it. and anything of what sparklie says added on to mine as she is gold dust...
tell your parents background info on them e.g. job.info of peoples houses your staying at....number plates of their car and make of it's car.... stuff like that.... mobile phone numbers for you and for other players on the team.... details of where you are staying and the phone number and address of there and also get your parents along.
then most important put all the info it on one sheet of paper and put it somewhere where everyone knows about it. and anything of what sparklie says added on to mine as she is gold dust...
genius!
i play on a team of 17-19 year olds, fortunately we have a motor bike and two cars between us, failing that the trains are a bit of a haul, but they get there eventually.
my parents (fortunately) are coll with me disappearing for the weekend to play 'ball, its a matter of building up the trust relationship, showing that you can look after yourselves and are responsible enough to stay out of trouble ya de ya de ya de......
parents dont take kindly to you just disappearing and returnin a day later filthy, cold, bruised and having not done your homework.
Hp
i play on a team of 17-19 year olds, fortunately we have a motor bike and two cars between us, failing that the trains are a bit of a haul, but they get there eventually.
my parents (fortunately) are coll with me disappearing for the weekend to play 'ball, its a matter of building up the trust relationship, showing that you can look after yourselves and are responsible enough to stay out of trouble ya de ya de ya de......
parents dont take kindly to you just disappearing and returnin a day later filthy, cold, bruised and having not done your homework.
Hp