Nothing is gay provided you are awesome enough to pull it off (there will be a picture of me in fishnets and a thong up on the LiPS comp soon, this demonstrates how awesome I am). So, the extent to which something might be considered gay actually depends on how gay you are. Most people can pull off a pink lady ego because they are actually awesome, but clearly your gayness has over-ridden that and made it gay. (Freud, 1905)
References: Freud (1905), On sexuality three essays on the theory of sexuality and other works Sigmund Freud, Penguin